Tuesday, August 28, 2007

Potty Training

Hi Mommies ,
Chintu is getting close to turning 20 months old and I would like to start potty training him. Yes, I see the smiles in all your faces ;) . Can you give me simple tips as to how I can begin ? I have read a lot of articles , but I want to hear from real experiences ...


GettingThereNow said...

The best way to do it "cold-turkey" :D I learnt that from experience. The discomfort from being wet without a diaper propels them quickly into wanting to use the potty :P But then, every child is different so what worked for me might not work for you. Also, don't make a big deal out of it (or any accidents for that matter). Don't worry about carpets if you have them and keep a lot of paper towels, newspapers and the phone number to a good carpet cleaner handy :P

Do I sound preachy enough? :D Hope this helps!

Karen S. said...

Potty training can be very frustrating as it was for me when I started with my son. So I began researching potty training and a common theme seemed to be praise and positive reinforcement. I came across a website called www.pottytrainingrewards.com. We hung it in the kitchen and named the little boy on the front of the package, Bobby. My son could not wait to go to the potty so he could push the button, hear the praising message, and get his chocolate reward from, Bobby. It really got my son excited about using the potty himself and it was fun for him. Because he became so involved, potty training was easy. This product worked wonders so quickly especially since I always heard boy were more difficult to potty train than girls. My son was going poop the very first day. So give it a try. Best of luck!

Asha said...

Hi Dee,congratulations for thinking of graduating him!:D
Boys are little tough to train. Still buy a colorful potty with cartoon characters on it and tell him it's for the "big boy" and make him sit on it even when he is not needing to go.
Some kids are just scared to go near it if you make them go when they need to.He will slowly get the idea.
Accident happens when you start without the diaper but he will learn eventually.Reward him even if he just sits on it. Good luck!:)

mnamma said...

If you want to start now, then find a good potty chair or a little potty like a commode. There is a wide range of options to choose from, choose the ones that would be the most comfortable to Chintu. Like Asha says just make him sit on it even if he doesn't need to go. Associate a particular word with 'one' and 'two' bathroom and try to make him understand the connection that if he needs to go, he needs to sit on the potty chair or commode. It'll be a frustrating at fist but he'll eventually learn.

DR said...

Hi Dee,
My almost-3-yr-old son A is just potty trained...
I started off the training and wanted results in 2 days!...thats a wrong approach..that creates the frustration which in turn effects the child...Its good that I realized it within a day or two ...and switched over to the "COOL" mode..here is what I did:
1. bought a potty seat (did not get a fancy one in the closeby shop..so its just white simple)
2. Made him sit on the potty after drinking his morning milk..just for fun..even if he is not doing anything. Meanwhile I brushed my teeth..or gave him his toothbrush..so for him it was a SEAT to sit and watch mommy do stuff!..This took away the stress...
3. Bought some stickers..so the day he succeeded he was given one and he could paste it on his cupboard door..and we would count them together..sometimes even call papa to have a look....and he glowed and beamed!!
4. Accidents happened..but thankfully few times.

Now, I feel proud to say that there are absolutely no misses during the day....but night trials are still on...it will take a bitmore time....so I remain the COOL MOMMY!

so step one: BE COOL...
[one comment of my husband A+ helped "have you ever seen a 20 yr old wet his pants? so it will be ok"

Dee said...

gettingtherenow: thanks for the idea..and yes I'll start looking out for a carpet cleaner too ;)

karen s: thanks for your inputs..will look for ideas from the website!

asha: will do...will start by encouraging him to just sit on it for a couple of minutes at the least :)

mnamma: I have started associating them with 2 different words. I have got him a seseme street chair coz he likes Elmo. For now...he thinks it is funny and just sits nxt to the chair and pushes the button so he can hear Elmo. I need to get him to sit 'on' the chair :)

dr: thanks for the excellent inputs :). I have to work on being cool and realizing things won't happen in a day!...your husband is sooo right..!

BTW...how long does it generally take ?..2 months? 3 months ?

Sandeepa said...


I think most of the Moms have given excellent advise and if possible it would be great to get a post with all the pointers.

From my own experience:

Don't expect miracles, he is only 20 months. I tried my daughter at 22 months but didn't pursue as it was a lot of work then. She would sit and not do anything.

Around 25 months or so, she was ready though and then it took very little time to train. Also her daycare helped a lot. They re-inforced with stickers and such.

Just wait for your son to be ready, it is much easier that way.

swapna susarla said...

Hi Dee
I think U shouldn't worry from now..he is just 20 months old!!It will be very difficult for him to understand from now.My daughter learned this from 2 y.(24months).
Make him used to the potty chair first.In the morning (in his potty timings) make him to sit on it for sometime.As days goes by he will understand.In my case it happened like that.At first my daughter is little bit confused..after that she is fine and learned quickly!!
All the best to u.But don't worry he will learn.:-)

Dee said...

Sandeepa & Swapna: agree. I will start by 'introducing' him to the seat and then be PATIENT...:)

mummyjaan said...

Hi, there.

I count potty-training as one of the major milestones of early childhood. Both for Mum and child.

It takes a lot of patience.

Do you feel your child is ready yet? Although all children are different - some train earlier and others later, but from what I've learnt (reading, others' experiences and message boards) if you start earlier expect the child to take longer to learn.
Conversely, if you start later, say around 24+ months, you can expect the child to get the idea more quickly.

Our DD started demonstrating awareness - at around 20 months alright. By that I mean if I left her nappyless (in short/pants without diapers) she would squirm and get uncomfortable before needing to go. We didn't actually try to potty-train her till she was 24 months.

But it wasn't until she was about 29 - 30 months before she actually 'got the idea'. And when it clicked for her ('the *small* potty seat is for *me*, for going to the potty'), then she kinda self-trained in a week, with little input from me.

On the other hand, I've personally met a bright little girl who potty-trained at 22 months and had very few accidents thereafter. A colleague says his wife potty-trained all 4 children at 1 1/2 year (I suspect he's chopping off a few months in praise of his 'dedicated' wife ;-))

So watch your little one. If he's ready, go for it. (Keep the patience handy). If he's not ready, wait for 3 - 4 weeks and try again. Good luck!

Ramya said...

hi dee,
i started training my daughter at 18 months but it didn't work.i still tried and daily made her sit on potty even if don't want to go.that helped a lot.suddenly by her 2nd birthday to my surprise she asked me and from then she is trained.but i have to train her in the nights and while going out.